The past couple of months I have been surrounded by so many people making big decisions. Deciding to get married, deciding to get divorced. Deciding to switch companies, deciding to leave their careers all together. Deciding to come out of the closet. Life is always full of decisions, some are not that easy and all come with reactions both positive and negative. Reactions from the universe, reactions from your friends, family, and sometimes, even strangers. We put so much stock into what people think, that we often use to it even make our decision for us. Then there is the after effect of having to explain why we decided what we did, over and over again. It’s exhausting and counterproductive, actions speak louder than words. Why do we give others so much power? On the flip side, why do we feel the need to over explain our choices?
Over the last week, in particular, I have seen several Facebook post and Live’s by people who have felt the need to either defend why they chose their choice or others who felt the need to post reactions to that other person's decision. I don't get it. Why does it matter? I know that in this day and age with everything on social media it's now become the norm to make everything “facebook official”, I had to do the same when I got divorced, but why does that come with an open firing squad?
If you left a company for another one, good for you! It's never easy to leave your comfort zone. A person from your team left and went to another company? Then good for you, now you have space and energy to bring in someone new and amazing. At the end of the day if you are not directly involved in that person's decision and the after effects of a person decisions then your opinion really doesn’t matter. Harsh? Maybe. Truth? Totally. What does matter is your support. What matters is you listening, REALLY listening. What matters is if you don’t agree, and this is now causing you to lose focus on your own life, then it's time to say “Bye Felicia” and move on.
The hardest decisions are never made overnight and we never will have a true idea of the struggles a person went through to come to that choice. So, what can YOU learn from their decision? Maybe it's how not to make a decision, or maybe it shows to you where your values and ideals lie or maybe it's actually an inspiration for you to go outside your comfort zone. Either way, everything can be a learning experience. What it shouldn't be is a distraction from the choices you have to make. What you choose is your choice and the opinions of others is merely that, an opinion. Yes, everyone has the right to one but you also have the right to how you react to that opinion.
“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” -Roy T Bennett
What you choose is your choice, no one else’s! Embrace it, evolve with it, and move on.