When did being alone with ourselves and our thoughts become such a scary unknown? Also, why do we feel we have to justify ourselves when we do?
I have just gotten back from a 10 day adventure through several countries in Europe with a couple of girlfriends of mine. I originally thought I would spend most of my time deep in my journal and writing up a storm, when really I only wrote on my plane ride home. I decided instead to be in my thoughts and be present, which most of us don't give ourselves enough permission to do. We spend so much of our lives trying to be busy, living in our head, and running in circles. All the while feeling the pressure to figure out everything right here, right now. When really, we just need to break it down. Most of us of have never done that before and getting started can be just as overwhelming and anxiety ridden as the place we are currently in. But it is possible! So, take a breath, grab a pen and paper, and let's begin.
Everything is tied together but when you start to really give yourself time to focus on one area, the rest seem to unravel with it. First step, what is the unknown you want to process first? Personal or Professional? After you identify that, what about where you are do you like and what do you want to change? Next, what is the common theme in the areas you like and how can you grow those to change the parts you don't like?
I don't want to get too ahead of myself because this isn't a magic pill. This process takes time, but when you start to really identify piece by piece what you want, suddenly you start seeing opportunities everywhere as well as the confidence to grab it by the balls. We don’t always know what we are capable of until we open ourselves up to every possibility. Will it be easy? Hell no. Will it be worth it? I don't even need to answer that. Now here is a warning, per say… Don't expect all of those around you to embrace your journey, or even understand your process. Yes, their validation is comforting but it is not required in the least. Be confident in your decisions and those who are meant to be will be and those who are not will leave you space for more who will.
My journey started about 4 years ago, when the life I thought I wanted was no longer an option. 4 years of excitement, tears, fear, anxiety, strength, questioning, searching, finding, failing, learning, and applying. I started on myself and my role as a business owner first and began to really figure out what was important to me. I got my copy of “The Compound Effect” and had so many unexpected tear inducing “ah ha” moments it wasn’t even funny! I started to apply what I learned and, slowly but surely, my true self was unearthed. It all came to a head when I got back from my 10 day European adventure and realized, I love my life! This life, that I created, is amazing! It’s exciting! It’s mine!
Don’t you want to wake up with that feeling? Then let's get to work because it doesn't happen overnight, but, I can promise you it will happen. I have the tools and you have the strength, let's make it happen!