Like the first chapter of a book, the pressure is on to have one kick-ass first blog entry in order to create interest and generate followers. So, what sets me apart from any other “Life Coach”?? In all honesty, it’s my story. Everything I write about, everything I speak on, is nothing new. No one really has “new experiences”, someone has always been there before. But it’s our stories, and it’s our journeys, that set us all apart and yet connect every single one of us. My hope is that my journey will inspire you, because we will have that connection. So, consider this entry the “So tell me a little bit about yourself” part in our journey. Enjoy.
Growing up, I was a huge mass of insecurities. I was always afraid of looking stupid, always thinking I was never pretty enough or smart enough, constantly comparing myself to everyone and their mother, etc. Add to that the fact that I was six-foot tall by the time I was 13, a three-year relationship with a controlling boyfriend, and you pretty much have the makings of an after-school special. At the age of 20, I broke up with said controlling boyfriend and moved from Arizona to Seattle to pursue my love of acting and the theatre. This was my first break for it, and I moved there with only a U-Haul, an apartment, and a theatre program acceptance letter. I didn't know anyone, I had only been there once before, and I didn't have a job. But, I could finally be ME. Nobody there knew me as “Drew’s little sister” or as “Lea and Tom's daughter”. However, that initial excitement wore off in about two weeks and I finally asked myself, “Who the fuck am I?” And so the evolution began. First, through the work with some of the most amazing directors, acting teachers, and fellow student actors a girl could ask for, and second, when I met my best friend Jenny. I don't think she will ever know how much she helped me grow. Jenny is one of those amazing people who is honestly her 100 percent of the time, no excuses, no apologies, just truth. It never ceases to amaze me how one person can inspire an evolution in another. There have been several of those people in my life so far, and I look forward to giving them all their due credit in future entries.
Between the ages of 25-32 I evolved some more, moved to Chicago, got married, started my own personal training business, had a baby, left my business, got a job I despised so I could work from home to be with my son, left that, and started a new fitness business with a Network Marketing company. During that business my evolution EXPLODED! That is when I discovered the powerful tool of Personal Development. Now here is my truth, before that time I thought personal development was just a bunch of hippy dippy bullshit, and probably most of you do as well. Personal Development tends to have this rap that you have to hug strangers and look yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I'm good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!”. Ok, some of it is that, but that is not the whole story. Personal development is anything you read, watch, and/or listen to, that teaches you how to apply something in your daily life to achieve the goals you want to achieve. The problem is most people forget that whole “apply” part. What started that journey for me was “The Compound Effect” by Darren Hardy. I never knew a book could make me literally go “AH HA”, slap my forehead, and bring me to tears. That was the catalyst and, since then, I have been addicted. Through the application of this addiction, I have solidified my passion for leadership and created this journey I call, Better Than Before. I have defined that my WHY is to motivate, support, inspire, and add value to people as they are on their own journey, because this journey is HARD and you need to know that you are never alone.
As this blog develops I will share with you discoveries that I have found, tools that I have applied, and “failures” that I have learned from because, let me tell you, as a now 35-year-old divorced single mother and entrepreneur I have my fair share every day. But because of my constant application of the tools I have learned through personal development, I no longer see anything as a failure. I am open and excited to endless possibilities, and I am constantly looking for opportunities to live outside my comfort zone. I want to pay that forward to you, so YOU can laugh in failure's face, YOU can know and embrace that your potential is limitless, YOU can grow, evolve, and succeed.
But here is a fair “warning”: I am always me. I come with my truth, curse words, 80’s & 90’s pop culture/movies references, and, at times, a crude sense of humor. But I also come with an open heart, a patient ear, unconditional love, and a lifetime of support. I am me, no one else, and I am 100 percent committed to giving you clarity on your goals, the confidence to overcome your obstacles, and to create with you a concrete plan of action.
Today, I invite you to join me and enhance your journey to being better than before.